LESSON 3

Self-Talk and Affirmations

Now knowing how influential our brains are to our relationships, our brain being one of our most important sexual organs, it is important that we look at what we are telling ourselves.

This section has three parts to it, in the first video we’ll look at self-talk, then we’ve shared one of our favourite videos about ‘NO slut shaming’ and lastly looking at affirmations.

Self-Talk

Sex Positive Self Talk – “My sexual pleasure is important to me and it’s essential that my partner cares about it too”

Walk of NO Shame – Amber Rose

Amber Rose takes pride in her stride. Don’t let anyone call it a walk of shame!

Affirmations

Examine your attitudes, get rid of the ones that are getting in the way of your pleasure and choose the type of sex you want to have, casual or otherwise.

Take Action

These questions aim to help you to explore your current views, challenge old beliefs, and consider how you can embrace a more sex-positive mindset that prioritises pleasure, self-acceptance, and freedom from societal judgment.

  • What are some of the messages you received growing up about sex, relationships, or your body? Do any of these still affect the way you think about your own sexual pleasure today?
  • What are some of the limiting beliefs you hold about your body or your sexual pleasure? Are there beliefs or fears that prevent you from fully embracing and enjoying your sexuality?
  • How would you feel if you could completely let go of the idea that there’s a “right” or “wrong” way to experience or enjoy sex? What would that freedom feel like in your day-to-day life and relationships?
  • After watching the Amber Rose Video how did you feel? What’s your personal view on casual sex? Do you find it empowering and enjoyable, or do you feel like it’s not something that works for you? If you experience guilt after casual sex, do you think it’s tied to social expectations or something personal?
  • The idea of using affirmations to improve self-esteem and self-love is mentioned in the video. How do you feel about saying positive things to yourself about your sexuality? Have you ever tried affirmations before?
  • Write down three sex-positive affirmations that speak to you personally and make a commitment to repeat them daily. How might this practice change the way you feel about your body and your sexual identity?