LESSON 2

Your Brain & The Science of Love

Much of what goes on in our brain, and in our body, happens at an unconscious level. We are completely unaware of it and have no control over it either, unless, of course, conscious thought kicks in and we can decide differently.

This section may help you to make sense of the phrase ‘to have chemistry with someone’.

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These questions are designed to help you engage deeply with the science of love while also reflecting on your own experiences with relationships, attraction, and intimacy. By blending both personal reflection and scientific understanding, I hope to spark deeper insights into how love works for you.

  • This lesson suggests love is more about the brain than the heart. What do you think—does love feel more like an emotional experience, or do you think it’s all about what’s happening in your brain?
  • This lesson breaks down romantic love into three parts: lust, attraction, and attachment. Which part do you think plays the biggest role in how you connect with someone?
  • Have you ever felt “blinded” by attraction or love? Do you think your brain chemistry ever takes over your judgment, making you act in ways you didn’t expect?
  • Oxytocin is called the “love hormone” because it’s released when we’re physically close with someone. Does hugging or cuddling make you feel closer to someone?
  • Have you ever noticed a relationship shift from just attraction to something deeper and more secure? What do you think made that shift happen for you?
  • Joshua in the story kept looking for excitement and novelty in his relationships. Do you ever find yourself craving new experiences in love, or do you prefer the stability and depth of a long-term connection?
  • While brain chemistry plays a role in love, this lesson reminds us it’s not everything. What other things do you think make a (your) relationship work—besides just feeling attraction or excitement?